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You’re in a meeting, the slides are rolling, people are nodding, others are fiddling on their phones, and then it happens. You have a question. You want to be seen as engaged, so you open your mouth, and words start to tumble out . . .and the room goes still. Silence.
We’ve all been told there are no dumb questions. But if you’ve ever watched a room collectively glaze over while someone tries to stitch a stream of consciousness into something coherent, you know “dumb questions” are alive and well.
At their core, questions are about curiosity. And while curiosity may have killed the cat, in your career, questions can be pure rocket fuel. When done right, curiosity makes you look sharp, collaborative, and strategic. However, haphazard curiosity may lead you to finding yourself metaphorically under a conference table, wishing for a 13 Going on 30 moment where you magically reappear as 30, flirty, and thriving, just anywhere but in that meeting.
So how do you harness curiosity as career capital instead of career sabotage? That’s a smart question. And in this five-part playbook, we’ll dive into practical (and slightly cheeky) ways to do it.
When you’re new to a project, your brain lights up with questions like a big ol’ neon sign. Resist the urge to fire them all off at once. Half will answer themselves as you absorb context. The other half will get sharper the longer they simmer.
Try this: Start a secret doc, dump all your questions in, and revisit after 48 hours. Cross off the ones that solved themselves, and reframe the ones worth asking. Now you’re not blurting. You’re curating like a purveyor of art.
Curiosity should sharpen the team, not sound like a personal confession. There’s a big difference between “I don’t get slide 7” and “Can we talk about how slide 7 connects to the project goal?” The first highlights your gap (and unlike the London Tube, you should definitely mind that gap). The second elevates collective clarity.
Try this: Swap “I don’t understand” for “Can we walk through?” Same curiosity, different energy. Suddenly, you’re not lost. Instead, you’re leading alignment.
Right after a big meeting or decision, the team takes a collective exhale. That’s your sweet spot. People are reflective, not defensive. A question in this window is constructive. (Cue Angela Bassett walking away from the burning car in Waiting to Exhale. Big exhale. Big release. Right timing.)
Try this: Send a quick note: “Great discussion today. One thing I’m still noodling on: how does this decision ripple out six months from now?” That’s not nitpicking, it’s being future-focused. And leadership loves a forward thinker.
If you’re running a meeting, the best way to spark smart curiosity is to show your own. Leaders who frame questions strategically demonstrate how to ask questions in ways that move work forward and don’t suck air out of the room.
Try this: Instead of ending a meeting with the standard “Any questions?”—which usually results in blank stares because everyone’s already at lunch—model the kind of curiosity you want from the team. For example: “This was a great discussion. What perspectives might we still be missing?” That shows curiosity as a tool to sharpen impact, not poke holes.
Curiosity is about impact, not volume. Not every question deserves airtime. There’s a fine line between thoughtful and time-wasting. The fastest way to tank your reputation is by asking something Google could’ve quickly answered, or a question that only benefits yourself. Talking doesn’t always equal contributing. Sometimes, adding value means being a great active listener.
Try this: Before speaking, ask yourself if the answer is easily searchable on your own and if the answer will benefit more than just you. If the answer is yes to either, park it. After the meeting, conduct the search or find a way to bring it up privately (either in a 1:1 or a Slack) and protect the group’s momentum and keep your credibility. Nobody wants to be the human embodiment of “this meeting could’ve been an email.” No one likes that person. Sorry, not sorry.
Questions don’t just reveal what you don’t know, they reveal how you think. Curate them with care, and you won’t just be asking questions. You’ll be shaping the conversation.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Alli Kushner is a writer, speaker, and fierce LinkedIn user. Her work explores the intersection of identity, ambition, and modern parenthood, with bylines in The New York Times, Business Insider, HuffPost, and more.